Before Involving Others On Making Decisions You Should Know 3 Things

What is the first thing that we do when in the face of a huge situation or when we are planning? Most of the time we go to a friend. The first thing that we should do is to just sit quietly. Listen, you might see the circumstance from a different perspective. How we see a situation will determine the moves that we’ll make. Advice is a good thing. I remember a time when I was to stubborn to even ask for help but when I finally did, OMG! I was grateful. With that being said here are 3 things that you should know before involving others on making a decision.

• Is It Validation or Advice that I am Looking for?
  We can easily just be looking for someone to pat us on the back and say “yes, what you are doing is correct, keep doing it.” It may be the right time but wrong option or wrong application to the right time. The big thing here is to locate yourself. If you are looking for someone else to validate your emotions even though what you feel down in your gut is telling you otherwise then don’t lie to yourself about that. Just know that it may not turn out how you want it to.

 

• Can I handle the Truth, Even When it Hurts?
  Seeking advice without an open mind is like mining for gold while blindfolded: even if you came across a “golden nugget,” you would never even realize it? The truth hurts. The person may advise you to do something you really don’t want to do. They may tell you that your brilliant idea has a huge flaw. This is where humility and prudence comes into play. Faithful are the wounds of a friend and it is a wise man who receives instruction. If you can stand hearing the words “You’re Wrong” then you are definitely in position to prosper. But If you are not willing to be corrected save yourself the time and energy and don’t even ask for advice.

 

• Am I being Emotional or Logical?
  Sometimes our emotions can try to become louder than the right way. Ultimately you are in control of your own life. I am not telling you to ignore any ones advice. You don’t have to take every word that everyone tells you. Heck, I’ve turned down plenty of advice before and turned out on top. But you must realize why you are not going to take advantage of the advice. Is it because you heard something that you didn’t want to hear in the first place and it makes you feel uncomfortable? Or because you have thoroughly thought the situation through and you realize that faith is required.

Next time you are face with a big decision or you are formulating a plan of action just think back to these three steps. Make sure that your decision is thought out thoroughly. Am I being logical or emotional? Can I handle the Truth, Even When it Hurts? Is It Validation or Advice that I am Looking for? These questions can save you big time in the end.

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